This past weekend I was in Hampton, VA for my Mary Kay Career Conference. I had an awesome time and , as usual, I had an epiphany about some things. It is also good to have some self reflection and process emotions. I learned about myself and I wanted to share that with you all. I hope you learn some things about yourself as well.
As I’ve mentioned time and time again on my blog, I have been in this business since the age of 18. Starting off still in high school meant starting off learning about this business as I was still learning about myself. So then in 2013 I had reached one of the highest levels in my business, Sales Director. This is the top 1% of the company. But after a year I had to step down from that position and my confidence was rocked. It felt like failure and i was super hard on myself. It took me a while to even want to get back into that position because my mindset wasn’t right. And then when I did start trying it seemed difficult. Then I was told by a mentor that if I’ve done it once I can do it again. It was all in my mind! I had the skills I just had to believe in myself.
So as of July 2018 I am a Sales Director again! But then I started to feel another confidence issue rising up. I was 30 at the time and there were ladies on my team who were older than me and seemed more polished and put together than me. My thoughts turned to how can I lead this wonderful group of ladies? So I shrunk myself and started acting as if I wasn’t the leader. I cheered them on from the sidelines.
But that brings us back to this mist recent conference I attended. The number one director at this conference filled with hundreds of women was a 27 years old woman. It felt inspiring to see that! So when she asked for questions at the end of one of our trainings I stood up to ask her about my dilemma of not feeling big enough to lead. She gave some great pieces of advice and here they are:
1. Wear things that make you feel confident i.e. a certain suit, a certain hairstyle, etc
2. Pray for belief
3. Hitch your wagon to someone with more belief (Live off of their believe until you have your own)
It was such an eye opener to see that I had not been feeling like a leader so I had not been leading my team. And that doesn’t help anyone involved. So my new mantra in life is “If you have the skills, don’t let your emotions get in the way.” No longer will I allow my feelings to make it seem that I am not worthy of the position I worked hard to be in. Do you sometimes deal with doubt or low self confidence? How do you deal with it? Please comment below with your tips and other comments. And don’t forget to follow my blog by pressing the button at the bottom of the page.
So as is written in my bio, I have been a business owner with Mary Kay for 13 years now. I’ve been to all sorts of conferences and this one is DEFINITELY at the top of the list. It’s been in existence 24 years now and created by a powerful woman named Angie O. I have now attended this conference about four times and it just keeps getting better and better! I wanted to share some of my notes with you all because a lot of what’s taught can be used no matter what career field you’re in. It was about transforming your life into something better!
Are you committed or just interested?
This is an interesting to ask yourself every time you have a goal in life. You have to not just want that thing to happen. You have got to commit to doing what it takes to MAKE it happen.
Don’t allow your memory to affect your future
Often times in life, especially as we grow older, we can be deeply affected by things that have happened in our past. And because of that it makes it harder to try that same thing again. But the future is filled with possibilities and your past is not.
Make a goal so big that you have to become a better person to even achieve it
We should always be striving to improve in life and one way to do that is through choosing goals in life that force us to be better.
My hope is that at least one of these nuggets I gained from attending this conference has struck a cord with you and you’ll take that and run! I’d love to hear your thoughts on this so PLEASE comment. And don’t forget to follow my blog by pressing the button at the bottom of the page.
As is mentioned in the About Age section, I am a beauty consultant with Mary Kay Cosmetics. July 1st I moved up in my business and became a Sales Director, which only the top 1% of this business do. There is a conference that all new directors are encouraged to attend called New Director Education and this past weekend I had the chance to attend in Orlando, FL. What I love about attending these types of conferences is that I can use many of the things that I learn not just in my business, but in my life in general. So I decided I wanted to share some of those tips with everyone.
Make fear your friend. If there’s no fear, you’re not growing.
I loved this quote because often we only think about fear as a negative thing, but the only way to move to the next level in life is to reach into new territories and that is naturally a scary thing to do. But you have do it anyways in spite of your fear. When you are complacent in life, it’s easy to continue doing the same motions day in and day out. Growth comes only with sacrifice and therefore you will feel some emotions because of that. Embrace that feeling and move into the next phase of your life!
Don’t set your goals based on your current situation
I know from personal experience that it can be hard to see a better tomorrow in the middle of a desolate present circumstance. But what this quote reminds me is that when I dare to dream for more I can do it from the mindset of where I am now or else I will limit myself. Once you are out of issue plaguing you, you might realize that you have the ability to do far more than you could have possibly thought of at the time. Always dream with the future in mind.
Be cognasant of your filter. Struggling people notice mainly other people struggling.
We all have a filter which through we see our lives. It took me a second to understand this fact but how the speaker explained it is by using the analogy that often times other pregnant people will notice a lot more pregnant people around them. But this is only because now that they are pregnant, they notice others in their circumstance more often. In that same vain, when we are struggling, we can notice more people around us who are struggling. And then we may start to feel even more depressed because it feels like there is no hope because everyone is in the same boat as you but that is not fact.
Interrupt negative thoughts and replace it with a positive one
This is an issue I often struggle with because I have social anxiety. Sometimes I have negative thoughts come in my head and if I don’t choose to stop them they will be pouring and pouring and suddenly in a black hole. The moment that you notice a negative thought come in your head you must interrupt it before it’s even finish and immediately say something positive. Even if it’s as simple as “I’ve got this!”, it will help because what you think about, you bring about. Having a positive mindset is so important to be successful in anything.
Say yes and figure it out later
Often times we feel as if we must have everything figured out with a plan we have for our lives before we pursue it but life doesn’t work like that. We have to sometimes jump into the deep end and then learn how to swim. We can think ourselves right out of a great career move just because we think we aren’t ready. You’d be surprised what you can naturally figure out as you go along the process.
So what did you get out of these quotes? I hope that you learned something because I know I did. Let me know what you liked the most and other inspirational quotes that you have learned over the years. And please don’t forget to subscribe by clicking the button at the bottom of the page.