Three Clothing Necessities for Winter

I am EXTREMELY proud of myself because for some reason usually every fall I somehow forget that the next season is winter and I am highly unprepared clothing wise. And then I end up having tons of runny noses, frozen toes, and just overall sick days. And a part of the reason is that the season creeps up on me but the other part is that I can sometimes be cheap. But this year I realized how important certain clothing necessities are and that you have to spend a little extra money on certain items and then you have fewer hassles throughout the winter. So I decided to share with everyone three things I have invested in and where I purchased it from. 

1. Tights

Ever since childhood, I have hated stockings. They just never felt comfortable, they would always run super quickly, and no matter which size I got they always seemed to be too big or too small. That is why tights have always been my preferred choice. To me, they feel like wearing a pair of skinny pants or leggings. And I also love getting designer tights as well so I can add a little personal style flair. This fall I got three pairs of tights that I will be able to use throughout the winter because they should match just about everything in my closet. I got black, navy blue, and burgundy. And with the black ones which I will be wearing most likely more often than the others, I got a pair that has control top so it’s almost like a girdle at the same time. The wind can be killer during the winter and if you don’t have anything protecting your legs, they can turn into popsicle sticks. Because I am plus sized, sometimes shopping can be difficult as there are fewer places to go. So I went to Lane Bryant to get my tights. Here are the links:

(In Black)

(In Dark Water and Winetasting)

2. Boots

Another way I have failed hard in the past when it comes to being prepared for the winter as far as clothing is proper foot wear. I wouldn’t have any boots and my feet would always be FREEZING! One reason would be the cheap part I mentioned earlier but the other part would be the fact that I have large calves so oftentimes I had a hard time finding boots that would fit past my ankle. I could only get booties and that isn’t always the best protection against cold weather. Last year I went to a plus sized store called Avenue and I found two GREAT pair of boots made for women with large calves. I also stuck with the theme of getting a couple of colors that will work with most of the clothing I have in my closet and got a brown and black pair. Here are the links:

(They don’t have the pair I bought anymore but these are similar)

3. Winter Coat

I think that having a great winter coat is one of the most important necessities of them all because we are seen in our coats more often our outfits underneath. And of course also because it’s cold outside. And since that is the case our winter coats should be just as cute as our clothes underneath. For a couple of years, my mother would get me a winter coat for Christmas so I have been blessed with about two or three of them. My favorite one though is this red coat with cute horn-shaped buttons and a hood. I believe my mom got it from Burlington (then called Burlington Coat Factory) I never knew how much my winter coats need hoods until I got this jacket. I feel NOTHING when it’s a windy day in the cold because of it. So I definitely recommend making sure your winter coat has a hood. Here is a link to a similar hoodie:

What are some necessities for you in the winter time? And where are you favorite places to shop for winter clothes? I always love learning of new and different stores, especially for plus sized women. So please comment below with your suggestions or comments. And don’t forget to subscribe to my blog by pressing the button at the bottom of the page.

Testing Craft City Slime Kit

If you have a child or have children around you than you know that one of the latest crazes is making slime. There are tons of tutorial videos and kits you can buy at stores all around the country. While my oldest nephew, Dwayne (he’s 10) was visiting he wanted to make slime. So I took him to target and we bought Kara Garcia’s Craft City, Slime Kit. I filmed our process so please enjoy this video and I’ll post my thoughts underneath.

Final thoughts

I love all the different ways that you can make the slime. They give you a variety of options. You can add glitter, make it glow in the dark, add different colors, and make the slime into bubbles. Although it was fun to make the different slime with my nephew, it didn’t last long because all of the slimes basically melted. I don’t know if we did something wrong or if this is just how it works but the next day the bowl was almost all liquid with a little slime left. So overall I wouldn’t recommend this slime kit. If anyone has any suggestions on what I might have done wrong or how to make slime better with another recipe please let me know. And as my nephew mentioned in the video, please like, comment, and subscribe to both this blog and my youtube page for the blog.

Sweet potato ooey gooey butter cake recipe

I love trying new recipes and cooking something different. One year for my birthday I invited friends over and asked them to bring a food dish they’d made. My friend Taylore (s/o to the homie) brought something called pumpkin ooey gooey butter cake. It was a smash with the group and asked her to send me the recipe. The next year for Thanksgiving I decided I was going to try this new recipe I had just tasted. And the same way it was a hit at my birthday party, it was a hit with my family! I even made a small batch for my dad to take to work and now they request it all the time too. Everyone loves this recipe! And it’s fairly easy as well. The two main things I’ve learned through making this year after year are to really make sure the cream cheese is soft or else the batter comes out lumpy and it is best to use a hand mixer to assure everything is properly blended. I’ve gotten lazy before and just tried to mix it with a spoon and it just doesn’t taste the same. Another thing I love about this recipe is the flexibility of it. After a couple of years of making the same pumpkin recipe, I decided to switch it up and do sweet potato instead. It was sooooo much better! And now in more recent years, I’ll add chocolate chips to some and nuts to some. You can make this recipe so many different ways! There are some other variations listed at the bottom of the directions. This has become my go-to dessert recipe and I haven’t had anyone complain yet of me making it every year.

Here is the recipe:

All of the ingredients

Bottom crust in cupcakes

Left: chocolate chip Right: half nuts, half regular

Cupcakes when done (forgot to put water in the other half of the pan so they came out a little brown on top)

Finished butter cakes (holes in there are from making sure the cakes were done)

Have you ever made this recipe? What’s your favorite dessert recipe? What tips can you share as far as baking? I’d love to get your thoughts on these topics. And don’t forget to follow my blog by pressing the follow button at the bottom of the page.

How to wash a human hair wig

I recently bought my first “big girl” wig, meaning it was 100% human hair and cost over $100. It was hard to find because 1. I was trying to find it in a store and not online 2. I wanted a natural hair wig because I have natural hair and hate trying to gel down my edges and 3. initially I wasn’t trying to spend a lot of money on getting a new wig. I have had practically every hairstyle in the book so I have been excited to try out a new one.

Although this hair is natural, it is not the same texture as mine. This means that I can’t use the same type of product I use in my hair on this wig. I typically buy really thick curling creams for my hair since it’s 4c (extra kinky) but the curls in this wig are looser. I wanted to try and two stand twist my wig so I used my curling cream I use on my own hair on the wig. Big mistake! The hair looked shiny and it was weighed down. It no longer had that bounce that I loved. I knew I had to wash the wig. So I went to google because as I mentioned earlier, I’m new to this good wig game. I found some instructions on how to wash a human hair wig and I’d like to share them with you.

1. Brush/comb wig

2. Fill sink with cold water

3. Put a couple of drops of shampoo in there

Since this hair is human use quality shampoo and conditioner that relate to the hair on it (i.e. use shampoo/conditioner for curly hair if the wig is curly)

4. Turn wig inside out

They said to do this because most of the dirt and oil is in the cap of the wig because that’s closest to your head so it will make it easier to get that part clean

5. Place wig completely in water and let it soak for 5 minutes and drain water

6. Rinse wig with cold water until shampoo is completely gone

After 5 minutes was done

Water after shampoo

7. Apply conditioner directly on the wig

8. Wait two minutes then rinse with cold water

9. Turn wig right side out and squeeze the water out

Don’t twist or wring the wig out or it will get tangled and don’t brush the wig while it’s wet

10. Roll that wig in a towel to get out excess water

11. Apply your desired products

 I sprayed a leave in conditioner and an oil mist

12. Put the wig on a wig stand and let it air dry away from direct sunlight

When I first placed the wet wig on the wig stand I was concerned because it looked matted and all twisted up. I thought it would dry that way but thankfully it didn’t.

13. Brush the wig once it’s COMPLETELY dry

The wig looked normal and was clean again by the end. The only issue I had was frizz. I was very thankful to find some helpful tips!

I am not an expert in this field so I’d love as much feedback as possible. Is there a better way to wash a human hair wig or another tip somewhere in between I should be adding to this regimen? What are some great ways to maintain a human hair wig? And on a side note, where are some sites I could get an inexpensive (I’m willing to spend just not as much as I see sometimes when I look this up) but quality natural human hair wig? (Preferably 4c because that’s my texture.) And please don’t forget to like this post and follow my blog by pressing the button at the bottom of the page. Thanks!

In my shoes – Onyeka Michelle



Onyeka Michelle is a 20-something year old Nigerian British woman living in London. She is a lifestyle and self-development blogger. Her day to day consist of replying and sending off emails. She is also often studying because she is a student. Because of her blog she also often attends events in the area which she can write about. She is also an Accredited Youth and Adult Mental Health First Aider. Here is her page:

New Mary Kay Chromafusion Makeup Line

You guys….I am sooooo excited about this new makeup line with Mary Kay Cosmetics. It JUST came out and I can’t wait to share it with everyone. It is called Chromafusion and it is a GAME CHANGER in the makeup industry. As a director with Mary Kay, I get new products early so I have now been using these products for a couple of weeks and I see a HUGE difference. The line consists of eye shadows, blushes, highlighters, and contours.


 Here are some facts:

  • 12 hour wear
  • High-impact color payoff
  • Pigment-rich colors in matte and shimmer shades
  • Curated by top makeup artists
  • Dermatologist tested
  • Clinically tested for skin irritancy and allergy
  • Suitable for sensitive eyes and contact lens wearers
These products are powered by Mary Kay Chromafusion Matrix Technology. It is a hybrid technique  that specially wraps finely-milled, premium pigments to amplify color like never before. The enhanced pigments are then fused into a lightweight powder to create a smooth and flexible matrix.
There is also a new Pro Pallette that Mary Kay introduced which is fully customizable and magnetic to keep all your colors in place. You can arrange your makeup any way you would like and it holds all of the makeup from this line and former line plus foundations and bronzers.

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My thoughts:

I love how highly pigmented the colors are. It does not take much to make the color pop on your skin. That means that you get a bright look and also that your products will last longer because you don’t need as much. It’s also amazing that it last 12 hours and I know that for myself because often times I do my makeup early in the morning and am running around all day, forgetting to reapply my makeup. But then once I catch myself in the mirror between meetings or a night event, I realize I don’t need to do anything but my makeup still looks like it did in the morning! The variety of colors is also amazing for me. I love matching my makeup with my clothes for the day so no matter if I’m wearing blue, green, gold, etc. I can match my makeup with my outfit. The highlighting and contour colors are great too. They have shades for every skin tone no matter how light or dark and I appreciate them thinking of that. My mother, also a Mary Kay director, said to me the other day that when you highlight and contour it’s like the difference between a blurry picture and a focused one. Those steps help to define your face and bone structure which make for a cleaner look.

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Pro Palette: $25
Eye Shadow: $8
Blush: $14
Highlight: $14
Contour: $14
If you are interested in purchasing any of these items and you do not have a Mary Kay consultant, I would love for you to send me a message here. I am also looking for beauty bloggers and makeup artist in the US for try samples of this new line and share their opinion on their pages. Please message me here as well for that. Comment below with your thoughts on these new amazing products! And don’t forget to follow my blog by pressing the button at the bottom of the page.

“In My Shoes” – Cheryl Meckley

Meet Cheryl Meckley, a  44 year old woman living in Seattle, WA with her husband and two children, boy and girl. She works in the health insurance field but also has been taking classes in improv, stand-up comedy, oral storytelling, writing, and learning to fly. Super early on Saturday and Sunday mornings you can find her at her local Starbucks writing her blog, Searching 4 Sissy. She decided to start her blog because she has been through many tough things through her life and she wanted to share them to not only help herself, but those around her.
Cheryl grew up moving from apartment to apartment on living off food stamps and government welfare checks.  Also as a child she dealt with sexual abuse and was sometimes shunned from sharing her story but she has found it freeing to do so. She mentioned that the #metoo movement has been a big help in that effort. “The #MeToo movement is important to me because it has opened the door to talking about something our culture has kept in the dark. Even as a survivor of childhood sexual abuse, it was considered uncouth to talk about it. The #MeToo showed how many survivors there are out there. There is power in numbers and so many of us feel like we have a voice now,” Cheryl said. Her blog trying to find her sister so please check out her blog and see if you might have any information to help the search.
She decided at a young age that she did not want to live the life she was living when she became an adult so she got her degree at 35 and now lives comfortably. She loves writing and wants to make it her full time job. She plans to try to do this for a few months in 2019 and see what she can get published.
Check out her blog here: Searching 4 Sissy

“In My Shoes” Blog Series – Savio Paes

Meet Savio, better known as Sav. He is from Goa, India. His full time job is a Language Educator, teaching English. But since he constantly had thoughts and opinions in his head he decided to start a blog as well. “Blogging happened to me, mainly due to the constant thoughts that swarmed my mind during various parts of my day, and with no one to really share them with, I turned them into a blog post – and hence my blog was born,” Sav shared with me. He has quite the talent for writing and says it’s a gift from God that helps him relax. If there was one thing that he wanted shared more than anything it’s that the wonderful people of India may be different but they are not strange. “You just need to come to experience what it feels to be in Goa,” he added.

Here is his blog: The Extra Mile

In My Shoes Blog Series

For the month of October, and maybe a little longer, I’m going to be doing a blog series called “In My Shoes” I have an idea of sharing the lives of different bloggers all across the world and the different traditions, issues we faces, etc. I feel that a major problem facing America (and maybe other countries as well) is that we all stay in our corners and we don’t know other people’s cultures. I feel there would be more empathy if we understood each other. So that is the main purpose of this blog series I will be doing. Each week I want to do a different story about a different blogger in a different part of the world or different culture than mine. I want this to be done in love so there will be no hatred coming from me. And if won’t be tolerated in the comments. To kick this series off I’m going to write a little bit about myself. Next week it will be a different blogger from another country and/or culture.

Having to write about myself reminds me of filling out a dating profile online, which I happen to have quite a bit of experience in. It always feels awkward and like you have nothing to say although when you really think about, everyone’s life is interesting to someone. I think that because there is someone in the world who lives completely different than me and would appreciate to know about my regular life. At least I hope so because that’s what I’m about to do!

I am a 30 year old straight, single woman from northern Virginia in America. I have two businesses, Mary Kay and a videography business. And I also work part time at my church and I am a unit manager for my mother’s business. If you asked me what I would be doing at 30 when I was a child I don’t think this was it. I’m sure I thought I’d be married by now but that hasn’t been in my cards yet. And growing up I wanted to be a writer. I’m not too far away from that now doing videography. But I wanted to strictly be a poet. I loved writing poetry and still do. But I soon realized that I would not be able to make a living only doing that so I then took some journalism classes. But that seemed too competitive and strict for me. But all that changed when in my senior year I took a videography class and realized this blended my love of being creative and my love of writing. That’s how I ended up in this field.

Another thing that has affected who I am today is the college I went to for undergrad. It was an HBCU called Virginia State University. HBCU stands for historically black college or university. It is a list of schools that were created so that African American people could go to college back in the day when we weren’t allowed in at other schools. My high school was predominantly white so coming to this almost all black school taught me so much about myself and my history. If you want to learn more about that, read my blog post on this very subject.

To quickly wrap this up, the last big part of my life I’d like to discuss is my religious side. Although I don’t like using that word because I like to focus more on my relationship with God than anything else. I am a Christian and was raised up that way. I actually brought my parents to the church we attend now because I went to Vacation Bible School with a neighbor and loved it. VBS is basically a time in the summer, usually for a week, where kids and adults get together in different classes and learn about God through different lessons. And the younger kids do crafts as well. My relationship with God has gotten me through a lot of tough times because it feels good knowing you’re not alone and there is someone who you can toss all your burdens too. I respect everyone’s religions or lack thereof though. I would never want someone to tell me I was wrong for the way I think so I don’t do that to others as well.

So that was a walk in my shoes. Did you enjoy it?!?! I would REALLY love any questions or comments you have this week especially since this one is so personal. And if you would like to participate, please fill out this form and we will chat. Also don’t forget to follow my blog by pressing the button at the bottom of the page.

5 Success Tips from my Business Conference

As is mentioned in the About Age section, I am a beauty consultant with Mary Kay Cosmetics. July 1st I moved up in my business and became a Sales Director, which only the top 1% of this business do. There is a conference that all new directors are encouraged to attend called New Director Education and this past weekend I had the chance to attend in Orlando, FL. What I love about attending these types of conferences is that I can use many of the things that I learn not just in my business, but in my life in general. So I decided I wanted to share some of those tips with everyone.


Make fear your friend. If there’s no fear, you’re not growing.


I loved this quote because often we only think about fear as a negative thing, but the only way to move to the next level in life is to reach into new territories and that is naturally a scary thing to do. But you have do it anyways in spite of your fear. When you are complacent in life, it’s easy to continue doing the same motions day in and day out. Growth comes only with sacrifice and therefore you will feel some emotions because of that. Embrace that feeling and move into the next phase of your life!


Don’t set your goals based on your current situation


I know from personal experience that it can be hard to see a better tomorrow in the middle of a desolate present circumstance. But what this quote reminds me is that when I dare to dream for more I can do it from the mindset of where I am now or else I will limit myself.  Once you are out of issue plaguing you, you might realize that you have the ability to do far more than you could have possibly thought of at the time. Always dream with the future in mind.


Be cognasant of your filter. Struggling people notice mainly other people struggling.

We all have a filter which through we see our lives. It took me a second to understand this fact but how the speaker explained it is by using the analogy that often times other pregnant people will notice a lot more pregnant people around them. But this is only because now that they are pregnant, they notice others in their circumstance more often.  In that same vain, when we are struggling, we can notice more people around us who are struggling. And then we may start to feel even more depressed because it feels like there is no hope because everyone is in the same boat as you but that is not fact.


Interrupt negative thoughts and replace it with a positive one


This is an issue I often struggle with because I have social anxiety. Sometimes I have negative thoughts come in my head and if I don’t choose to stop them they will be pouring and pouring and suddenly in a black hole. The moment that you notice a negative thought come in your head you must interrupt it before it’s even finish and immediately say something positive. Even if it’s as simple as “I’ve got this!”,  it will help because what you think about, you bring about. Having a positive mindset is so important to be successful in anything.


Say yes and figure it out later


Often times we feel as if we must have everything figured out with a plan we have for our lives before we pursue it but life doesn’t work like that. We have to sometimes jump into the deep end and then learn how to swim. We can think ourselves right out of a great career move just because we think we aren’t ready. You’d be surprised what you can naturally figure out as you go along the process.


So what did you get out of these quotes? I hope that you learned something because I know I did. Let me know what you liked the most and other inspirational quotes that you have learned over the years. And please don’t forget to subscribe by clicking the button at the bottom of the page.