Change…it’s inevitable! Yet somehow when it comes I’m either surprised or sad so I start to procrastinate on in hopes of slowing it down. Is this healthy? Of course not lol. But awareness is the first step right? I certainly hope so. Because I am now attempting to better handle transitions in life because I have plenty of them. And if change is going to be a constant, then why not be a master at it.
I think my main resistance to change has been fear, fear of the unknown. I can sometimes be controlling but you can’t control change. It just happens to you. I like clearly knowing what is ahead of me so I can have a game plan but that’s often not the case for life. But I started working on this issue when I was in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and I learned some something called radical acceptance. That phrase basically means that we can’t change certain things about life, so we have to learn to accept it, completely.
Some ways to improve your radical acceptance levels are being present in the moment (finding the good things and focusing on that), being mindful of your emotions and not letting them take over, and improving the moment with things like prayer, meditation, or some source of self soothing. I know it can be hard to remember tips like these when you’re in the moment. I often do myself. But what I do find helpful is being aware of my surroundings and my emotions. If I sense change is coming and I sense my emotions are not helping the situation, I have to do something to change that. And that’s when I start reaching into my DBT skills.
I hope you guys gained something from this! My blog is all about this thing called life being a group effort. So if you have any tips on how you deal with change, please write them in the comments. And don’t forget to follow my blog by pressing the button at the bottom of the page.