How to radically accept change in life

Change…it’s inevitable! Yet somehow when it comes I’m either surprised or sad so I start to procrastinate on in hopes of slowing it down. Is this healthy? Of course not lol. But awareness is the first step right? I certainly hope so. Because I am now attempting to better handle transitions in life because I have plenty of them. And if change is going to be a constant, then why not be a master at it.

I think my main resistance to change has been fear, fear of the unknown. I can sometimes be controlling but you can’t control change. It just happens to you. I like clearly knowing what is ahead of me so I can have a game plan but that’s often not the case for life. But I started working on this issue when I was in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and I learned some something called radical acceptance. That phrase basically means that we can’t change certain things about life, so we have to learn to accept it, completely.

Some ways to improve your radical acceptance levels are being present in the moment (finding the good things and focusing on that), being mindful of your emotions and not letting them take over, and improving the moment with things like prayer, meditation, or some source of self soothing. I know it can be hard to remember tips like these when you’re in the moment. I often do myself. But what I do find helpful is being aware of my surroundings and my emotions. If I sense change is coming and I sense my emotions are not helping the situation, I have to do something to change that. And that’s when I start reaching into my DBT skills.

I hope you guys gained something from this! My blog is all about this thing called life being a group effort. So if you have any tips on how you deal with change, please write them in the comments. And don’t forget to follow my blog by pressing the button at the bottom of the page.

6 thoughts on “How to radically accept change in life

  1. Everything you said is 100% accurate. I made a big move from the states to japan, and it was definitely hard! From finding a job to finding a place. There’s been a lot of changes over the last couple of years, a lot in which I feel like I have no control over – but practicing mindfulness has helped a lot. Also, showing gratitude towards the better things in life. I may not have all the cute furnitures I want and I’m still working to pay off debt, but I have a home, I’m safe with my family. That’s all that should matter! And your post is a great reminder to look at the brighter side of life! Thank you ❤️

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  2. I completely agree that we have to learn to accept change. Also, there is no point to regret what has already happened and to dwell on it, since we can change it anymore. As hard as it can be, we have to learn to accept these changes.

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  3. So many gems in this post and the comments. It reminded me of a few fav “grounding techniques” and even the extreme pertinence of keeping your work, as an electrician, grounded with sensitive care, so as to avoid serious injury. Keep up the phenomenal work, Age.

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