Don’t be hard on yourself

Lately I have had a lot going on with my businesses and life in general. And since I deal with anxiety my first reaction was to dwell on all the bad things that were going on. When you are in the middle of that, it can feel like you’re drowning and every negative thought is another feet you go under the water. But then I spoke with my mother and she reminded me of all the positive things that that been going on as well. It’s so interesting that when you get into a cyclone of negativity not even the positive things that happen in that timeframe can help. You become so enamored with the “woe is me” that you ignore any light that may come your way. It was nice to hear my mother remind me of those things because even if they were small or big it was something I did for myself and therefore it was a reminder that I can make things happen! I encourage everyone who may be in a rut to make a positivity list of ANY positive thing that has happened to you in the last week. Seeing your skills laid out in front of you encourages you to keep pushing. We all have our down moments but we can not stay there or else we will be stuck in that timeframe forever. And your next big break might be over this hump. Any time you have a negative thought about yourself or your work/business/blog/etc. AUTOMATICALLY combat it with something from your positivity list you make. And as much as I sometimes hate this phrase sometimes you have to fake it till you make it. So even if you don’t fully believe you can achieve your next goal you have to keep telling yourself you can until it happens!

There are two caveats I have to this piece of advice and they are people who deal with clinical depression and those who might need tough love. First, those who might have pushed themselves as hard as they could with positivity and still haven’t seen a mood change might need to seek professional help about clinical depression. I am not a doctor so I can not say for certain whether someone is sad or depressed but if you feel as if you might be depressed, please see a doctor. The second is tough love. Sometimes in life we are pretending as if we’re working as hard as we can to reach our goals and we actually aren’t. In those times we don’t need a positivity list but instead tough love. Whether it be yourself or a close friend/family member, sometimes you need someone to tell you to pump it up. Do more work because you know you can and you’re meant to be in a higher level of purpose by now. We have to be honest with ourselves and know that we could work harder, make a plan, and then work it!

So again, I encourage everyone to write a positivity list of all the great things they’ve done this past week and focus on those things any time a negative thought comes in your head. What type of things do you do when you’re feeling down on yourself? I can use all the help I can get lol

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